N is for Newlyweds

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

In my last post, I suggested an imaginary list of "Top 5 Regrets from the First Year of Marriage." There are at least five things I’d do differently, but I’m not actually sure “regrets” is the right word. 

M is for Money

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Usually, when two people get married, they stand up in front of their friends and family and they make a promise to stick together, no matter what. For better and for worse.

L is for Love & Like

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

"Love" is the obvious word here. But with all due respect to love, it’s probably a little too obvious for my tastes. Don’t get me wrong, I love love, but it often clouds the real issue at the heart of a relationship.

K is for Kissing

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

My first kiss was with an older woman. Older at least in the sense that she could drive and I couldn’t. It was after a football game one Friday night. 

J is for Judgment

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

J is an eight-point Scrabble letter. Only Q and Z are worth more. Turns out there simply aren’t a lot of words that start with J. 

I is for Imagination

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Initially, I planned to write about Integrity. The word gets thrown around a lot in conversations about good behavior. 

H is for Humor

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

When I was in the ninth grade, I saw Who Framed Roger Rabbit six times in the movie theater. I have probably watched it at least once a year since then.

G is for Gratitude

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Do you “give thanks” before meals? If so, to whom? Or to what? Does it matter? If you don’t give thanks, why not?

F is for Friendship

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

I was in a job interview a while back when the interviewer asked me, “What three words would your best friend use to describe you.” I like the question, but it took me a moment or two to respond.

E is for Empathy

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

E is for Empathy. I’m obsessed with empathy lately. It’s hard to define exactly what “lately” is, but it’s been floating around my mind for a better part of a year. 

D is for Defensiveness

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Down-regulating one’s own defensiveness is the “work” in Making Relationships Work.

C is for Contempt & Criticism

Zach Brittle, LMHC  //  

Contempt and Criticism. The first two of Dr. John Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse - at least alphabetically.