Learn research-based tools for building and maintaining intimacy from the comfort of John and Julie Gottman’s own island home. 

Have you ever planned a wonderful romantic vacation, complete with a lovely room, candle-lit dinners and white sand beaches, only to have your dream become a nightmare when tense quarrels and silence spoil the sunset? We have been listening to painful stories like these for nearly 40 years.

Now you can restore your relationship while having a world-class romantic holiday. In an exclusive, small-group two-day couples retreat, you’ll learn new skills for deepening intimacy, managing conflicts, and enhancing your sense of shared meaning in a private, comfortable, and beautiful setting. The retreats are presented by the Gottmans in their seaside home in Washington’s San Juan Islands and include lectures, role plays, discussions, and exercises completed just with one’s partner.

The intimate setting enables couples to receive personalized, special attention from the Gottmans while enhancing and restoring their relationship.

During the retreat, you will learn skills to:

  • Strengthen your friendship
  • Deepen your understanding of one another
  • Spice up your intimacy
  • Transform inevitable relationship conflicts so you can build solid bridges between the two of you
  • Unearth the values and life purpose you share

The Gottmans welcome you to join them in their lovely island setting.  While the retreats take place at their home, participants stay nearby in beautiful accommodations.  If you wish, you can combine the retreat with a romantic island holiday experience as well.  Their event planner can help you arrange the details of your visit to Orcas Island including lodging, transportation, dining, and options for outstanding recreational opportunities, including sailing, kayaking, whale watching, golf, and hiking.

These workshops have limited attendance. We recommend that you register early.

Private Couples Retreat Dates

November 4-5, 2017
March 3-4, 2018
April 28-29, 2018
June 23-24, 2018
August 18-19, 2018
September 8-9, 2018
October 6-7, 2018

To read more information about these retreats, please click here or call (206) 313-0471.

Marathon Couples Therapy

In addition to providing Private Couples Retreats, Drs. John and Julie Gottman are now also scheduling appointments for Marathon Therapy at their home office on Orcas Island. In this powerful new therapy format, one couple meets with either Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Julie Gottman, or both for five hours a day and for 2-4 consecutive days while staying overnight at a nearby Hotel or Bed and Breakfast Inn.

Marathon Therapy can thus accommodate clients traveling from other locales who cannot attend weekly therapy sessions. It provides an intensive, condensed and highly focused approach to relationship issues that can help couples move quickly through specific issues and learn important new skills in a short period of time.

Click here to learn more about Marathon Couples Therapy or to schedule an appointment for Marathon Therapy, please call (206) 313-0471 for Dr. John Gottman or (206) 381-8456 for Kathryn Schwartz, assistant to Dr. Julie Gottman.