The Art and Science of Love

Created and Presented by
Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman

Based upon Dr. John Gottman’s four decades of research with thousands of couples

  • Upcoming Seattle Workshops
  • May 5-6, 2018
  • July 14-15, 2018

Discover The Art and Science of Love at our world-renowned weekend workshop for couples presented by Drs. John and Julie Gottman in Seattle, WA.

  • 2 days filled with engaging presentations and experiential activities designed to confirm, strengthen, or restore your love
  • For couples of every age, ability, and sexual orientation
  • Shown to achieve results similar to those of 6 months of marital therapy
  • Has produced positive results for 94% of those who attend

Based on over 40 years of research with thousands of couples, The Art and Science of Love workshop will give you new insights and research-based skills that can dramatically improve the intimacy and friendship in your relationship and help you manage conflict in a healthy, positive way. Along with the memory of re-connecting and the knowledge that “we can do this,” you will take home a box set of cards, tools, and tips to support your relationship in your everyday lives.

The Workshop Program

Bunsen Burner for The Art and Science of LoveOur curriculum is developed from 40 years of research with more than 3,000 couples. It’s grounded on what actually works in relationships that are happy and stable, not idealistic notions or anecdotal evidence of what marriage ought to be. The workshop has produced positive results for 94% of those who attended based on 2016 exit surveys, but don’t just take our word for it. Click here to read one couple’s story, “15 Favorite Moments from our Gottman Weekend Workshop.”

This workshop is designed for ALL couples in a committed relationship.  If you have a strong relationship, this workshop will provide you with insights and tools to foster further closeness, friendship, and trust. If your relationship is distressed, this two-day workshop will provide you with a greater understanding of your relationship and a road map for repair. No public discussion or disclosure is involved.  All work is done as a couple and Gottman trained therapists are available to support one-on-one during exercises.

Already attended? Refresh your skills and deepen your understanding of the Gottman Method at The Art and Science of Love 2 advanced workshop for couples.

Attendees at an Art and Science of Love Weekend Workshop for Couples

As a result of this workshop, you will learn how to:

At the workshop, you’ll learn how to: foster respect, affection, and closeness; build and share a deeper connection with each other; keep conflict discussions calm, break through and resolve conflict gridlock; and strengthen and maintain the gains in your relationship.

Workshop topics include:

  • Learn to recognize the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and what to do if they are attacking your marriage
  • Identify your relationship’s specific strengths and how to build on them
  • Learn about the effects of physiological flooding and how it may affect conflict resolution
  • Use the Fondness and Admiration System to renew respect and care for one another
  • Create an Emotional Bank Account that you can draw upon in times of stress
  • Develop your problem-solving skills, including the 6 skills for effective conflict resolutions
  • Find out how you can make your dreams and aspirations come true for you, your partner, and your relationship


As a result of this workshop, you will receive:

In addition to a greater understanding of how to build friendship, manage conflict, and create shared meaning in your relationship, you will receive a box set, which contains:The Art and Science of Love DVD Home Study

  • 7 Card Decks
    • Love Map
    • Opportunity
    • Open-Ended Questions
    • Rituals of Connection
    • Salsa (Mild, Medium, Hot)
  • 2 Couples Workbooks
  • Repair Checklist
  • Aftermath of a Fight Booklet
  • Sound Relationship House Magnet
  • I had put my marriage on cruise control. I had gotten lost and didn’t stop to ask for directions along the way. I thought I could work it out for myself. How different my married life would have been if I could have gone to a workshop like this 20 years ago!
    R.S., Chicago, IL
  • When our daughter decides to get married, our wedding gift to her and her chosen will be a week-end at one of the Gottmans’ Couples Workshops. I can think of no better way to give a couple a good send-off on their marriage.
    E.K., Cedar Rapids, IA
  • The seminar we attended in May was fabulous! I honestly didn’t think we would ever be able to get back to the intense feelings that we had when we first were married, but this seminar sure did it for us! What a gift it has been! We have been giving your web address out to all of our friends! Thanks sooo much!!
    H.S., Great Falls, VA
  • My wife had been asking me to attend this workshop with her for quite some time but I’d resisted, concerned that it’d be “fluffy” or that I’d be expected to participate in potentially embarrassing group exercises. It turns out that the workshop was nothing like what I’d feared. The Gottman method is based solidly on scientific research, which lent great credibility to the workshop for me. Coupled with the Gottmans’ casual approach and great humor, they had me within the first session! My wife and I now have a new set of tools and a new vocabulary to keep us connected and help us effectively deal with conflict.
    T.S., Woodinville, WA
  • Excellent! Very practical and immediately useful. We would like to send our entire family to your seminars.
    D.K., Tacoma, WA
  • My husband and I attended the marriage seminar in Seattle at the beginning of the month. We have enjoyed a wonderful relationship in many respects, but have consistently had difficulty managing conflict in a healthy way. We have attended counseling for 2.5 years and have grown in many ways, but were “gridlocked” in this area. We recently hit the bottom and were unsure if we could continue. Our therapist suggested we attend your seminar. My husband and I were both deeply touched by your program. It was, by far, the best money we have ever spent. We learned so much and have begun to implement the techniques we have learned. We are achieving much success and are forevermore grateful. As we learn to master the strategies, we plan to teach our five children how to deal with conflict differently so that it will also transcend the generations. Thank you so very much for your time and effort. It was more meaningful than you will ever know.
  • THANK YOU for your many efforts prior and during the workshop. We had to leave an hour early to catch our flight back to Boise, so we missed our opportunity to say goodbye, as well to put the necessary closure on such a profound experience. Our ride to the airport was a quiet one, since we had no words to describe “the Gottmans” (other than beautiful souls…) and the myriad of contributions they have made, and continue to make, enhancing and maintaining relationships–everywhere.
    R.M., Boise, ID
  • We were really unaware of the specific problems we were facing until this workshop. We were separated and were strongly headed for divorce. I no longer feel this is an option I want. Instead, I feel very optimistic in being able to listen and speak now about our core issues and in resolving our problems.
    B.N., Seattle, WA
  • I attended the Jan 31-Feb 1 workshop in Seattle and felt compelled to give you some feedback that I was unable to give at the workshop. Thank you so much. My partner and I worked very hard during the weekend and got a tremendous amount of growth out of it. I want to let you know two things I felt were just fantastic. One is the vocabulary you used. We now have ways to talk about issues that are so much more straightforward. You have simplified in both vocabulary and in concept what can become so complicated and sticky. Secondly, I greatly appreciate the realistic view I gained about the reality of a long-term relationship through the examples and stories shared by John and Julie. Even the experts seem to deal with the everyday challenges of responding to each other’s needs. Very helpful in a society filled with Hollywood relationship images. Thank you for your commitment. We will continue to work on our path (with a little help from our Gottman Method Trained Counselor), and will refer others to your weekend workshops.
    L.R., Seattle, WA
  • I just wanted to share with you that my husband and I have been able to be a source of strength and encouragement to so many couples as a result of attending the seminar and subsequent reading. I never would have expected it. Yesterday I received a thank you note from someone! All we did was share hope, what we learned, techniques to try, and more hope, and referred people on to you, The Gottman Institute. Continue to do the good work that you do.
  • I really liked John & Julie’s speaking style. I appreciated hearing about the research findings, i.e., the “whys” before the exercises. The lectures, exercises and breaks were well-timed and well-spaced. Two days was the perfect amount of time to learn in-depth (enough) info, but not too long. The materials are great and will be a good reference at home long after we’ve completed the seminar.
    R.K., Redland, WA
  • I wanted to say thank you, as my wife and I got so much out of your couples workshop this weekend. Basically, the way I think about it: Happy at home = happy at work. Not happy at home = not happy anywhere. We’re very grateful for attending.
    Microsoft Employee, Seattle, WA
  • Just being together so intensely for two days was helpful. The workshop was very encouraging.
    A.S., Portland, OR
  • The main thing is that my spouse can hear me now. And, I am less defensive about listening to him.
    M.D., Spokane, WA
  • A pilot who lives in Ontario just called to register for the April Couples Workshop. He said his therapist sat him down last night and said, “I know you are a busy pilot, but you and your wife just HAVE TO MAKE TIME to go to Seattle to the Gottman workshop. That one weekend can do more for you than I can do in months and months of our working together!
    from a Gottman Institute staff member
  • I was engaged for 2 years but kept having problems. I registered for the Couples workshop in 2001 and after Saturday I realized we should not be together and we broke up. Now, a year later, I am with a new partner and we are considering getting engaged. I told him we MUST attend this Couples Workshop to determine if we should stay together. Attending this workshop with a boyfriend is the BEST way to determine whether or not we are well-matched for marriage.
    S.R., Seattle, WA
  • A solid home life is a foundation for a solid work life. It’s easy to see how all of the tools for dealing with relationship conflict apply as well to conflict in the workplace.
    Microsoft Employee, Seattle, WA
  • We loved the opportunity to focus on our marriage in a structured way.
    B.L., San Francisco, CA
  • This workshop for us was a refining and a fine-tuning of major work already accomplished.
    M.W., Everett, WA
  • I just attended the Gottman workshop for clinicians in Columbus, Ohio. It was all that I expected and more. I need to know the couples workshop dates for 2002. I want to give my son and his fiancé this experience. They will be married September 29 this year.
    L.A.R., Columbus, OH
  • Very uplifting and positive. It resulted in good feelings for myself, my wife, and our relationship.
    R.B., Bellevue, WA
  • It was a terrific weekend and I am grateful to the people who put on the seminar. I believe it will have a highly positive effect on our relationship. Special thanks to the therapist who worked with us. She was wonderful!!!!
  • The roving therapist really helped us when we were stuck & feeling scared. We feel much more hopeful & loving.
  • We loved the role plays, the honesty & the caring. You are both doing such good work in the world. Thank you!
  • Thank you for providing a safe, productive & nurturing environment where couples don’t give up on each other. To your entire team…Take Care
  • Don’t change a thing! I feel like a soldier who has survived advanced special forces training. It called forth a depth of strength, feeling, and recommitment that I never knew was possible for me.
  • Tremendous Healing!! We discovered we both had old beliefs or prejudices against each other that we thought were a gridlock. Barbara Johnstone helped us. When we shared our dreams – they were the same! (thanks be to God) Thank you for a great 2 days.
  • We have been married 27 years. For 20 years we have been in a marriage support group. This group is full of “masters of marriage” and we learned how to “mentor” one another. I’ll be sure to pass on info on “the Art & Science of Love.” Thanks again. God bless your work.
    C.J., Seattle, WA

Presenter Bios

Dr. John Gottman is world renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, involving the study of emotions, physiology, and communication. He has conducted nearly 40 years of research with over 3,000 couples. He was recently voted as one of the Top 10 Most Influential Therapists of the past quarter-century by the PsychoTherapy Networker publication. His breakthrough research on marriage and relationships has earned him numerous major awards. Click here to learn more.

Dr. Julie Gottman is a highly respected licensed clinical psychologist and the President and Co-Founder of The Gottman Institute. She is sought internationally by media and organizations as an expert advisor on marriage, sexual abuse and rape, domestic violence, trauma, gay and lesbian adoption, same-sex marriage, and parenting issues. She was also voted WA State Psychologist of the Year. Click here to learn more.


Additional Workshop Information

Please email us at Workshop questions only, please. We are unable to respond to therapeutic questions via email. Also, please be sure to include your email address in your message. The live workshop is the single best way to learn this material. If you can’t attend in person, the next best option is to order The Art and Science of Love Home Study Set.

Gottman Trainees

All Gottman trained professionals are now eligible for a $250 discount to attend The Art and Science of Love workshop in Seattle with Drs. John and Julie Gottman. A personal workshop experience is beneficial for your professional and personal toolkit, and will help you to better integrate Gottman interventions into your work with couples. Click here for further details.

Microsoft Employees

You are eligible to attend The Art and Science of Love workshop in Seattle with no out-of-pocket expense. Your registration fee is paid for by your EAP plan through Wellspring Family Services. Please call Kendra Han, Director of Couples Services, at 206-696-8324 or click here for further details.

Armed Forces

It is an honor to support the military and their families. All active-duty military and veterans are eligible to receive a $200 discount to attend The Art and Science of Love workshop using promo code: MILCWS


All clergy members are eligible to receive a $200 discount to attend The Art and Science of Love workshop. Contact for more information.

  • Yes. Drs. John and Julie Gottman are the presenters for The Art and Science of Love couples workshops in Seattle, WA.

  • Couples of all ages, incomes, races, nationalities, professions, religions, abilities, and orientations attend our workshops. Couples attend who already have a strong, healthy relationship, and couples attend to repair relationship damage and get back on track. Parents sometimes attend who have decided to end their relationship but want to do so in a way that doesn’t negatively impact their children, and receive skills to become healthy co-parents moving forward. We welcome all couples who want to work on making their relationship stronger.

  • Yes. We welcome all couples.

  • Yes. We strongly encourage attending our workshop as premarital preparation.

  • Yes. We welcome all couples. Our curriculum does include research data on same-sex relationships.

  • Yes. We have standard discounts for families involved with the military, the clergy, or Gottman-trained professionals. We also offer partial scholarships to qualifying couples. Our staff will be pleased to discuss these options with you.

  • Yes. Gift certificates are available upon request.

  • Sorry, no. Our workshops are specifically designed to be interactive and experiential for couples only.

  • Each couple is different and we are unable to provide specific advice about how to convince your partner to attend a workshop or seek counseling. However, many individuals have found that a good place to start is by sharing some of the research and videos on our website with their partners. Dr. Gottman’s bestselling book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is also a great way to become acquainted with the research and the Gottman Method.


  • No problem. Couples sit as an audience during Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s lectures, but we provide lots of extra square footage for privacy while couples engage in the workshop exercises. Our Certified Gottman Therapists are available to work one-on-one with couples who desire support and assistance during exercises. There is no group work, and no mandatory sharing.

  • Our highly experienced team of Certified Gottman Therapists are on hand at every workshop. These therapists are available to work one-on-one with you during the exercises. Couples are not required to use clinical help, but we strongly encourage using this resource while you have the opportunity.

  • The venue, weather, time of year, and several other factors affect the size of each workshop. The Seattle workshops with Drs. John and Julie Gottman tend to average between 300-350 couples. We offer a FREE transfer policy and many couples use that option, so about 30% of the seats at any workshop turn over more than once.

    Local workshops presented by trained Certified Gottman Couples Workshop Leaders may offer smaller group sizes. Certified Gottman Couples Workshop Leaders are Certified Gottman Therapists who have been specifically trained by The Gottman Institute to present couples workshops. All workshop leaders use The Art and Science of Love curriculum designed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. These workshops are offered independent of The Gottman Institute.

  • Yes. Couples who attend our workshop tend to fall into two categories: enhancement and repair. We applaud couples who are wise enough to attend the workshop for enhancement purposes. Our brains are more open to new learning when we are not stressed out, and our workshop is designed with plenty of humor and romance, so enhancement couples have a terrific time while learning. Feedback from both enhancement and repair couples indicates that the couples workshop is very beneficial.

  • Sometimes. While each situation is unique, we do have many couples attend the workshop who are separated or have begun divorce proceedings. These couples continue to report that the workshop was very helpful to them. Our staff will discuss the specifics of your situation with you during the registration process to see if it is appropriate for you.

  • There are no prerequisites to attending a couples workshop. The workshop is self-contained and is appropriate even if you’ve never heard of Dr. John Gottman and his work. Some find it helpful to peruse the information and videos on our website, but even this is not required.

  • No. While we do not recommend any specific childcare service, some couples have reported positive results with

  • Yes, if you are coming from out of town. Our staff will provide hotel information for each venue. If you are local, you can certainly go home. However, we recommend you try to preserve your focus on your relationship throughout the entire weekend, if possible. Try not to go home to kids, jobs, neighbors, pets, all the daily distractions and stressors we face. Try to keep the weekend just for the two of you.

  • Yes. While Drs. John and Julie Gottman only present The Art and Science of Love in Seattle, Certified Gottman Couples Workshop Leaders offer workshops for couples around the world. Please be sure to check workshop locations and presenters for workshops in your area.