Are you falling in love with someone?

Are you exploring a new relationship that you hope leads to a lifetime of love?

Are you wondering, “is he the one?” or, “is she the one?”

Do you feel pretty good about your relationship but seek guidance toward making it even better?

Whether you are in a heterosexual or same-sex relationship, we want to help you.

But we also need your help!

Drs. John and Julie Gottman are writing a book about how a young relationship can become a source of positive exploration of one another. They have created six guided dates, which are really six conversations that they think can help you know if this relationship is the one. If you already think it’s the one, these six dates will guide you toward creating lasting love.

They need your help to test these six dates that they have designed. They are seeking a diverse group of couples of various ages, orientations, and ethnicities to go on these six dates, and also to record the audio of their conversations and submit them for review. The Gottman Institute guarantees complete confidentiality for your involvement in this project. Drs. John and Julie Gottman will then use the information they receive from these conversations, and interviews they will personally conduct with some of you, to write the book, Six Dates for a Lifetime of Love. By submitting the form below, you agree to accept these terms and conditions.


The application for this project has closed. Please contact cody@gottman.com if you’re interested in participating.